As many of you have probably already realized, I am a writer. I don’t care if my books may never make it into the public eye, but I still claim the title. I spend my free time writing. Either I’m writing articles here or at Geeked Out Nation, then other times I’m writing and working on my novels. It can take a lot out of me. One of the biggest things that comes with writing and any other creative outlet that comes with some sort of a gateway that must be crossed, is rejection. Whenever there is a threshold that needs to be crossed and things aren’t entirely in your power there is rejection.
I wrote one novel to completion. Then I edited it twice through. I took notes from betas and revised the story and went through another set of edits. I thought It was ready to go out. In retrospect it wasn’t. Sure, the story was unique and interesting. It just wasn’t solid enough to stand a chance. It made it to agents and only a couple requests came in and none of them turned into anything. It happens. I shut off and not a single rejection actually made me upset. There were no tears. There was no agony. I simply put the manuscript away to be looked at later.
The string of rejections did have an effect on me. I didn’t realize it until recently. Since I stopped querying that first story that made it into the wild, I’ve worked on an written a few more novels. However, not one of them has made it to the query stage yet. Sure, a couple of them are so close I could taste it. I could at least look for betas. Instead, I’ve pocketed my stories, fearful of facing rejection from any one. Sure, the initial rejections hadn’t deterred me. I even went back and started working on fixing that first novel I queried. However, it has made me weary to sharing any more of the work.
I’m sure many of you have faced rejection just the same. A rejection isn’t something that should stop you. It shouldn’t make you doubt what you are capable of. However, a rejection should make you question everything else. It should make you critically re-evaluate. It should make you strive to improve. It shouldn’t take away your heart and drive from the story. It can be tough when a rejection often feels like an insult. Some people take rejection personally; they shouldn’t. Some people recognize that a rejection is just for the work. But one should never become fearful to continue to put one’s work out there.
How do you handle rejection?